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How To RSVP ‘No’ To A Wedding Without Feeling Guilty

It happens to all of us once or twice a year. Our mailboxes seem to receive an influx of letters that aren’t credit card bills or mailers from coupon companies. It’s the time when we find ourselves receiving more wedding invitations and save the dates than we have free time or a disposable income to attend.

We’ll do everything we can to say yes to attend those weddings and make it there in person, but once in a while, we have to say no. Whether it’s because we have another commitment that weekend or it’s just too pressing on our budget to attend, we find ourselves looking for an easy and painless way to let the couple know that we can’t be there to celebrate one of the biggest nights of their entire life.

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Sounds stressful, doesn’t it? If you find yourself glaring at an RSVP card, trying to figure out how to put an “x” next to “I regretfully decline,” here are five ways to RSVP no to a wedding without feeling guilty.

1. Do it ASAP.

If you can’t make it and you know you can’t make it, give the couple a heads up as soon as possible. When the save the date flies into your mailbox, call or text the couple letting them know you can’t go. That way, you won’t find yourself teetering on the edge of the RSVP deadline, feeling bad that you can’t make it.

2. Send a gift.

Sending back an RSVP card marked “no” may have you feeling some guilt in your gut. You can curb that feeling by sending over a nice wedding card with a gift inside. That way, you’ll let the couple know that even though you can’t be there in person, you still wanted to give them a little something to remind them that you’re part of the celebration.

3. Plan a night out.

Make it up to the bride and groom by taking them out to dinner before or after their wedding. If you live in another state or country, take them out to dinner in a more unique way by sending them a restaurant gift certificate.

4. Give a specific reason.

No means no but when it comes to sending your RSVP for a wedding, you’ll feel less rude if you give a specific reason why you can’t make it. Have another wedding? Is it the weekend after your big exam for school? Would travel arrangements cost you an arm and a leg? Be honest about why you can’t make it in person.

5. Don’t change your mind.

Once you’ve made a decision, stick with it. You’ll drive yourself crazy if you become indecisive on whether or not you should go, after you’ve already responded no. Spend quality time with yourself and your calendar before making your decision and once you’ve made it, stick with it. Even if your friends tell you you’re missing the wedding of the century.

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Wedding singer at daughter’s ceremony was no ordinary entertainer

One day in 1973 our daughter, Nicole, announced that she would like a garden wedding on our backyard patio.


How do you plan a garden wedding, I wondered? I had never before been faced with this problem. What should I do about music, decorations and the reception?


A short while later, we were invited to the wedding dance of a distant cousin. My wife, Jokki, and I never missed the chance to go dancing and we accepted the invitation. There was a small orchestra and one of the entertainers, a saxophone player, so impressed me that at intermission I went up and talked to him.


“Do you suppose the orchestra would play for my daughter’s garden wedding?” I asked.


“I will come and play for your daughter’s wedding,” he said. “Do you have a piano?”


“A baby grand,” I said.



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We agreed to the terms and I gave him the location and date.


On the day of the event the patio was decorated, the food arranged for a reception, and a reverend called.


What if he doesn’t show? I was getting nervous and it was time for the musician, Eugene Jackson, to appear. Would someone have to improvise the music?


I waited out front with a space saved in our driveway. At the last minute, a big white Cadillac came down the street, past our driveway and wheeled into the middle of my neighbor’s driveway. Al, my good friend and neighbor, was invited so it was OK.


The wedding march was played and the ceremony completed with friend Al taking pictures. It was a gala afternoon with food, punch and music. Eugene played all afternoon.


The guests gathered around and nobody wanted to leave while Eugene played almost until sundown. He stood on the piano bench and rendered saxophone solos. He played the baby grand and sang and seemed to enjoy the audience as much as they enjoyed him.


Afterward, I was amazed to find that he was the kid who played Pineapple in some of Hal Roach’s “Our Gang” comedies of the 1920s, playing Farina’s older brother. At age 6 he was dancing for nickels and dimes on the streets of Los Angeles, where he was discovered by Roach. If you are wondering where the nickname came from, Roach looked at his Afro and called him Pineapple.


He went on to star in “Buster Brown” comedies, played Red Foxx’s friend in episodes of “Sanford and Son” and acted in Mary Pickford’s “Little Annie Rooney.” As a grown-up, he starred in many movies and in vaudeville.


At the time I hired him to play at my daughter’s wedding, I was not aware of any of this. Evidently, he was available wherever there was a request for entertainment and he was truly an all-around entertainer who could fit into any venue no matter where or for whom.


He certainly filled the bill at our little ceremony. He presented us with a signed glossy photograph depicting the various phases of his life.


We saw him one more time with our friends, Al and June, at a small club playing piano and singing for the patrons, proving once again that he was available wherever an entertainer was needed and truly one of a kind.


Eugene “Pineapple” Jackson was born in 1916 and died in 2001 at the age of 84.

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4 Under-the-Radar Places to Make Your Wedding Album Online

As part of my budget-friendly, non-waitress-salary wedding, I choose to not use a photographer with a package that included an album. If I could go back, would I have made the same decision? Unsure. I've honestly struggled with finding a site to make my own wedding album online and have had some mixed experiences with the company I used (MyPublisher, FYI, and we can talk about that on another day).

There are a lot more sites than I'd expected—I'd only heard of the big guys like Shutterfly and Snapfish. I'm about as laid-back as they come, but I figure that my wedding album is likely to be the only one I really care about, both in terms of how it looks and how it holds up over time. If you're like me and searching for a spot that gets all the factors just right, consider these guys I've just discovered via searching and studying message board comments from that chattiest of group: brides.

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Milk. For minimalists who want something classic, crisp, and devoid of flowery details. The most inexpensive style I see is just $45, which makes this a definition option if you're tight for cash, and the site's beautifully laid out. Get more info here.

Blurb. Likewise, this site is fresh and simple to navigate, and all the books look really clean (a.k.a. there's not a whole bunch of wedding clip art cluttering pages). The most unique feature I've spotted is that you can play with media; the below example is from a baby book, not a wedding, but gives you an idea of how you could incorporate notes, cards, or anything other scrapbook-type of items you saved.

Adoramapix. I read a few enthusiastic reviews for this one, and it's worth checking out, especially if you want a premade layout that's specifically for weddings. If the clean and simple look I referenced above isn't your things, consider this site to get your fill of bright colors and space for quotes or captions. Get more infohere.

BrideBox. If too many options sends you into a tailspin, check out this one. There are three main options and each has an accompanying video to see what the pages look like, how they turn, etc. (um, this is genius). The prices are on the high end of what I've seen, but I like that there's a satisfaction-guaranteed promise, a huge plus if you're shelling out a fair amount of money. Get more info here.

Have any of you guys made your own albums online and found a site or company you loved?

Like I said, I'm easygoing (example: I didn't freak out when my photographer missed our ceremony). Still, I'm just not quite happy with what I have right now. Part of me thinks I'm crazy for wanting to try another site, but part of me also thinks, Hey, you only get one wedding album.

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