Blogs | Créer un Blog | Avertir le modérateur


Death of the Bridal Shower: Why the Girly Wedding Ritual's Over

As the $52 billion-dollar wedding industry continues to explode, one aspect of holy matrimony seems to be on the decline: the bridal shower.

Long before Etsy, Kleinfeld, and tiered cupcake towers played a part in the so-called wedding industrial complex, showers existed primarily to help a bride-to-be put together a "trousseau," which was historically made up of traditional dowry items like lingerie, linens, and items for the home. (You probably remember dowries from Pride and Prejudice. Mrs. Bennett was a classic marriage-obsessed mother.)

But when families stopped marrying off their daughters based on their perceived economic value, trousseaus evolved, and so did bridal showers. Commonly thrown by the mother-of-the-bride's friends, the future mother-in-law, or a group of bridesmaids (or, occasionally, all of the above), today's showers are less about gifts and more about getting together to celebrate the occasion. Presents are still a significant part of it, but so are Pinterest-approved decorations and hors d'oeuvres.

Because the tradition dates back so far, and because weddings are nothing if not based on tradition, deciding you don't want a shower—something that's becoming more and more common—can be a bold move. Wedding planning requires making lots of controversial (okay, "controversial") decisions, whether it's choosing a destination location over your hometown, having a DJ instead of a band, or forgoing a church in favor of the court house. But since skipping out on having a shower requires telling someone, in so many words, "I will not allow you to throw this party for me," and that someone is often a future mother-in-law or great aunt or your best friend's mom, it can be a particularly contentious choice to make.

Picture: SheinDress wedding dresses online

When Meredith Thalheimer tied the knot last summer, her mother, who has thrown plenty of showers for her friends' daughters, assumed her own daughter would want one too. Thalheimer, co-founder of the now-closed boutique Dagny & Barstow, did not.

"My mom was absolutely devastated I wouldn't have one. She waited her whole life for me to get married," she says. At first, Thalheimer relented, but then she realized just how badly she didn't want one. Part of it was that the self-described introvert couldn't imagine dealing with the kind of attention that comes along with such an event. Mostly, though, she didn't want to put yet another financial burden on her friends. (And, as someone who's going to 14 weddings in the next 12 months, she knows something about that kind of stress.)

There was also the fact that she didn't need any of the traditional gifts that are associated with a shower. It's common to cohabitate before marriage these days (there's been a near-900 percent rise over the last 50 years), meaning oftentimes a couple already has all the dishes, silverware, and panini presses they could ever need by the time the ceremony rolls around.

Writer Lauren Sherman chose not to have a shower for her wedding three years ago. As she explains, "I got married when I was 28, and we didn't want a bunch of presents. We did register, but we registered for really silly shit, like matching Barbour jackets." The idea of having a shower never really crossed her mind, and she couldn't imagine expecting her friends to buy her gifts. "Once you're self-sufficient, it feels weird to ask for stuff, and that's the only reason to have those events," she says.

Thalheimer, who lives in New York City, also mentioned lack of space as a concern—when you're living in an apartment in Manhattan, you don't have room to store an extra KitchenAid stand mixer and a couple of crockpots. Despite all the practical reasons to resist a shower, Thalheimer's mother was still heartbroken she couldn't change her daughter's mind: "I hope she'll get over it one day."

Not all parents are quite so invested. Though Of a Kind's Claire Mazur didn't have a shower, "I don't think it would even have occurred to my mother," she contends. Rather, Mazur opted out because she wanted to spare those close to her an additional nuptial-related obligation. "The biggest thing was that you end up asking your friends and family to do so much on behalf of your wedding," she says. "I already felt really celebrated at the bachelorette party, and I didn't feel like I needed another event."

Sherman also didn't feel pressured by her family to have a shower, largely because she and her husband foot the bill for their wedding. "We didn't owe them anything," she says. "I think a lot of times showers happen because the mother wants it and the daughter feels beholden." When the family of the bride pays for the reception, it can be tough to go against their wishes—though that's happening less and less. According to a recent Brides study, 43 percent of couples cover the full cost of their weddings, while 23 percent split it with parents. "I think that's the secret. Take as little money from your parents as you can, because then you don't have to do what they want," Sherman says.

This is not to say showers are becoming as obsolete as the dollar dance.Brides web editor Jen Cress explains, "While some brides forgo the traditional shower, more often we are seeing it replaced with a celebration that more closely reflects the bride's style and personality."

Molly Guy, founder of cool-girl go-to Stone Fox Bride, has seen the same tactic among her clients. "They no longer want to put themselves through the Julia Roberts rom-com ideal of a shower," she says. Sometimes that even means having separate celebrations for friends and family. "A lot brides throw something fun for their bridal party, like a spa day, but still have the traditional party to appease their mom and older family members," Cress adds.

It's worth noting that bachelorette parties didn't become popular until the mid-'80s, and in some ways, they've rendered showers useless. Bachelorette parties are less stuffy and more fun (depending on the amount of phallic-shaped novelty decorations, of course), and the bride still gets fancy lingerie. Guy has noticed that the bachelorette party and bridal shower are often even folded into one event, which makes sense given that the two have become somewhat indistinguishable in many circles.

Coed showers are also becoming increasingly common. ("Have you heard of a Jack and Jill shower?" Guy asked me. I had not.) Rather than having an additional girls-only get-together on top of a bachelorette party, brides and grooms are throwing couples' wedding showers: "We're still not seeing it all the time, but it's becoming more popular—especially since some brides and grooms are having coed bridal parties with a 'man of honor' or a 'best girl.'"

Though Guy says she'd rather "eat broken glass" than attend a buttoned-up bridal shower hosted by a mother's friend, she also understands the appeal. "If you can stomach it, it's a really lovely event," she concedes. "To shower the bride with things she might need for her long life ahead, god willing, with her partner is very nice. If you throw a shower right, you're getting together with your friends to eat food and drink cocktails. What's not to like?"

Having devoted into designing majorities of wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses, SheindressAU gained more experience on producing these dresses, From which you can gain more useful information. Via wedding dresses australia


more information via

04:40 Publié dans wedding | Tags : wedding | Lien permanent | Commentaires (0)


Hotel Offers New $1 Million Wedding Package—What Do You Get?

You don’t have to be a celebrity to have a luxury wedding.

For a cool $1 million, the La Valencia hotel in California will throw you a wedding fit for Beyonce. The high-end Ultimate Wedding Package comes with a private yacht, five-star chefs, professional photography, premier florists, and Hollywood makeup artists. Oh, and we can’t forget to mention couture bridal gown designers to create the dress of your dreams.

picture: sheindressau homepage

And you won’t be the only one treated like an A-lister. The 112-room hotel will provide accommodations for your 125 guests who will party in style with housekeepers, waiters, concierges, and access to hotels and restaurants.

"From the big picture to the tiniest details — luxury invitations, guest welcome notes, picnic baskets, excursion maps, bespoke furniture, custom place settings, and even parting gifts at the Farewell Brunch — everything will be designed to express your wedding vision," said Rita Moore, La Valencias Director of Sales & Marketing. “All you’ll need to do is arrive and enjoy.”

Still not sold? Would spa services and yoga classes entice you? How about surfing, kayaking and golfing for you and all of your guests? As far as transportation is considered, private business jets and luxury car service will be provide for the bridal party. And just a reminder, there will be a yacht available for the rehearsal dinner. A yacht we say!

The Ultimate Wedding Package is currently only available in La Valencia’s California property. However, it will soon be a feature at its properties in Monaco, Tuscany, St. Tropez, Ibiza, and St. Barths.

We can think of about a million other things to do with $1 million dollars, but you have to admit, this wedding package sounds like a fairy tale.


Having known such more about wedding and wedding dresses, if you want to get more information about that, you can visit our website, in which you can get a all-aspect understanding of the wedding and wedding dresses. The links of our website is  SheinDressAU wedding dresses online

05:01 Publié dans wedding | Tags : wedding | Lien permanent | Commentaires (0)


Ohio Wedding Boutique Closed Following Reports That Ebola-Stricken Nurse May Have Been Symptomatic When Trying On Gowns

Amber Vinson, the second nurse to have contracted Ebola while providing care for Thomas Duncan, the Liberian patient who died in a Dallas hospital earlier this month, may have "been experiencing symptoms" of the disease while visiting family in Cleveland, Ohio last weekend. Even after she called to report a high temperature bordering on fever, the Center for Disease Control (CDC) cleared her to travel, via commercial plane, both to and from Cleveland. So before we go any further, let's please not victim shame here.


Vinson had traveled to Cleveland to visit family — and to undertake some planning for her wedding (via Gawker). During the weekend, she went to try on bridal gowns, as brides-to-be often do. Now, upon her return to Dallas, she immediately checked herself into hospital; initial reports were that only people who flew on her same return flight* needed to monitor for potential symptoms of their own. (A special helpline has been set up to this effect, and Frontier Airlines has placed the flight's crew on paid leave.) However, the CDC now says they have received "more information" suggesting she may have been symptomatic as early as her flight out, potentially placing all the people she came into contact with both on her way to and in Cleveland at risk — note that Ebola is only transmissable via bodily fluids, and only contagious when a person is experiencing symptoms.

In particular, this includes her trip to the Coming Attractions Bridal and Formal boutique in Tallmadge, Ohio last Saturday (at present, this is believed to be the only occasion when Vinson wasn't just around family and close friends) . Local news station WCPO9 spoke with the boutique's ownerThursday, who described Vinson and her friends as "like any eager group" visiting the store. "What are we supposed to do?" she told the station. "The lady was here. So either tell us everything's fine, have somebody come out here and investigate maybe. I feel like they don't know yet what to do." The boutique is currently closed as a precaution, and being cleaned by local health inspectors. Folks also present on Saturday afternoon are also being urged to check in with the CDC.

Vinson is currently being treated at Emory University Hospital in Atlanta, Georgia. Her family have released a statement saying they have been "overwhelmed" with love and support, but also asking for privacy while her case is ongoing. Fellow nurse Nina Pham, who also caught Ebola while caring for Duncan, is now described as "quite stable," and will reportedly be released when she is well enough.

Oh, and another medical worker who may have come into contact with Thomas Duncan's "Ebola specimens" is currently self-quarantined WHILE ON A CRUISE SHIP.*The Daily Mail spoke with two male strippers also on the flight, returning from a romance novel convention in Canton, Ohio. They believe Vinson was sat "in front or behind" them (because that's how planes work), and have reportedly been told she was merely "three feet away." They are both self-quarantining themselves until early November (the recommended quarantine time is three weeks, which is considered the longest time it takes Ebola symptoms to manifest), and have bleached their inevitably G-string filled luggage.


read more:

04:55 Publié dans wedding | Tags : wedding | Lien permanent | Commentaires (0)