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6 Easy Ways to Deal With Wedding Jitters

The nervous jitters of the wedding day may keep some butterflies fluttering in your stomach and distract you, even if you have prepared for this day in many ways. This is natural. It's all new to you and you feel a little nervous; okay, maybe you feel a lot nervous. But you don't want to feel too nervous. Nor do you want to be detached or numbed of all feelings. Try to embrace it all.

It is important to recognize that on this very significant day, in this amazing moment in time, every emotion of the entire wedding journey may surface... and that's okay.

"I tell all brides I work with that, on their wedding day, they should expect and prepare for feeling all the emotions that came up during their engagements," says Allison Moir-Smith, a psychotherapist who helps brides through engagement stress and author of Emotionally Engaged: A Bride's Guide to Surviving the "Happiest" Time of Her Life. "If a bride anticipates that her wedding day will be full of many emotions -- the joyful and the difficult -- she'll be better prepared to deal with them."

The trick is, you don't want nervousness to overpower your experience. Some brides get nervous and overwrought about their nervousness! Here are some simple ways to treat yourself to natural, calming relief and remedies in the days before the wedding and on your wedding day.

1. Go to sleep with a warm bath, awaken to a cleansing shower. Before you go to bed on "W Day" Eve, take a warm, relaxing bath using a scented candle or aromatherapy oil and wonderful music to help you unwind and reflect on the journey you have been on. Some brides find the only peace and privacy before the big day is in the bathtub or shower.

2. Do a little Yoga when you rise. Yoga is the gentle stretching exercise that hails from the Hindu tradition and centers the body and mind. "A few minutes of conscious breathing and stretching can help release the jitters," says Barbara Kizner, Certified Kripalu Yoga Instructor. She suggests trying these postures:

A. Simple "Sun Breath." Stand with feet hip-width apart. Just inhale with your arms up, and exhale putting your arms down. Repeat this several times to help center you, to clear your mind and give you a little stretch. Use the inhalation as an opportunity to breath in relaxation. Use the exhale to release -- with a sigh -- fears, anxiety and tension. Allow your heart to expand with joy and excitement

B. A "Swan Dive." It's perfect for loosening up on your wedding day, says Kizner.

• Stand with your feet hip-width apart, firmly connecting to the earth.

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• Tuck your tailbone in just a touch and bring a gentle squeeze to your thighs.

• Acknowledge how your legs are strong and supportive.

• Be sure your shoulders are relaxed, away from the ears.

• Be sure your chest is gently lifted up to the sky, keeping your heart center open and receptive.

• Inhale your arms slowly overhead, breathing through your nostrils.

• Once you've come to the top of the breath wiggle up out of the waist and exhale through your mouth.

• Bring your arms down slowly, with resistance.

• As if you were gracefully diving down begin to fold your body.

• Keeping your knees soft allow your belly to rest on your thighs.

• Stay there for 3 breaths and notice that nice stretch and release to the lower back. It brings very small gentle movements to your neck and head, loosing up any tension that might have settled in the shoulders.

• Try sighing, it could feel great. With each sigh, release tension, anxiety, fear.

• Slowly roll your body back up to standing position, allowing your neck and head and head to come up last.

• Repeat 2 more times.

• Think of the Swan, so graceful, and always going with the flow. Also, swans mate for life!

3. Center Yourself. Before you get dressed, take one last look at yourself in the mirror. Feel your feet firm on the ground and put your hands right under your belly. The Japanese call that part of the body the "Hara," which means center. Then take a moment to once again feel your feet connected to the earth below, as if you are a tree. Know the leaves may sway in the wind but your trunk will stay upright and strong.

4. Eat light, but eat something. Although in some religious traditions the couple fasts -- symbolizing a fresh start -- consider a light meal before the ceremony. Eat foods that will give you strength and keep your blood sugar balanced. Stay away from excessive caffeine, sugar and overeating - which can all make you shaky. I once had a catering manager get a piece of salmon from the kitchen for a bride who was about the faint before the wedding from skipping meals -- and skipping some breaths too.

5. Stay Organized. It is important to curtail chaos by having a game plan and time line for the day's events and sticking with it as closely as possible. This should include everything from the time you awaken, shower and stretch ... to getting to the chapel on time ... to events in between and at the reception. "Brides tend to be on the planet Zippety Doo-Dah," says New York-based and internationally known makeup artist and hairstylist, Filis Forman, who often serves as a beauty coordinator for brides on their wedding day. "If a bride keeps very organized she will be so much calmer coordinating her day."

6. Anchor yourself in the love all around you. Focus on the positive side of the wedding day and the happiness and joy of the moment. Realize that everyone at your wedding is there to support you; that it is a day when you can do no wrong; everything you say and do, every tear you cry, will be adorable to those who've come to celebrate. Trust and lean into the love you share with your mate, and all the love in that room.

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Pasco’s Valentine’s Day wedding ceremony won’t be canceled after all

Both gay and straight couples will be able to tie the knot this year during Pasco County’s traditional Valentine’s Day wedding ceremony at the Historic Courthouse in Dade City.

Clerk Paula O’Neil had initially planned to cancel the ceremony in light of her decision last year to stop offering wedding services, in part because of the court ruling legalizing same-sex marriage. But Circuit Judge Linda Babb offered to serve as the Valentine’s Day officiate.

“I volunteered,” Babb said. “I knew she had been doing it in the past. I had sort of wondered if she was going to do it this year.”

The group wedding at the Historic Pasco County Courthouse in Dade City is a Valentine’s Day tradition.
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Last year O’Neil married 19 couples on the grounds of the courthouse in what has become a Dade City tradition. Even though she isn’t officiating this year, O’Neil said her staff would continue to facilitate and staff the ceremony, which falls this year on a Saturday.

“We’ll do the same things we’ve done in the past,” she said. “We’ll preregister all the couples, and we’ll be talking to businesses to see if we can get someone to donate a cake.”

Pasco County issued marriage licenses to 38 same-sex couples in the first week that gays could legally marry in Florida. O’Neil arranged to have notaries public on standby at both government centers that week to marry couples who were granted a waiver from the state mandated three-day waiting period. Several couples showed up with their own officiates.

Babb said she hasn’t performed a gay wedding since it was legalized in Florida on Jan. 6. “I did do one in (Washington D.C.) last year on Labor Day,” she said. “They were dear friends of mine — they’re like brothers.”

She hasn’t decided whether to perform a mass ceremony, like O’Neil did in the past, or to marry each couple individually. “I’m looking forward to it,” she said. “It should be fun.”

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South Florida tourism promoters courting same-sex wedding business

Tourism boosters around Florida are hearing wedding bells - and seeing dollar signs - now that same-sex marriage is legal in the state.

Already major players in the competitive destination wedding industry, some of state's top tourist draws are promoting their beaches and grand hotels as the perfect spots for gay and lesbian couples to wed.

While tourism bureaus have long courted LGBT visitors, who tend to be affluent and well-traveled, officials say the legalization of weddings will give them new avenues.

For the Greater Miami Convention & Visitors Bureau, that means the annual wedding-focused "Miami Romance Month" in February will include promotions for same-sex weddings; in Broward, a mass beach wedding in February for straight and gay couples is in the works. And the promotional arm of the Florida Keys was to start running banner ads on hundreds of websites that reach LGBT audiences.

Rolando Aedo, chief marketing officer for Miami-Dade's CVB, said the bureau has already been promoting the Miami area as a destination for commitment ceremonies between same-sex couples as well as a perfect spot for honeymoons.

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"But of course with this, we have a tremendous opportunity to elevate that part of the discussion - and the timing is perfect," he said.

The Miami-Dade bureau planned to start running a social media promotion this month asking gay and lesbian couples for their love stories; the winners will get a weekend stay in Miami Beach.

While a spokeswoman for Visit Florida said the state's official tourism marketing corporation is not planning any immediate marketing or ad blitzes related to LGBT weddings, South Florida tourism offices were rushing to reiterate their history of support for same-sex travelers and their excitement about the court rulings legalizing gay marriage.

"One of the things we really wanted to do is let our friends in the LGBT community around the country know that we have finally gotten the opportunity we have been working for and fighting for, which is to have them legally married in one of their favorite places to vacation," said Nicki Grossman, president of the Greater Fort Lauderdale Convention & Visitors Bureau.

The tourism office recently announced a "Love is Love" initiative that will launch with the mass sunrise beach wedding in Fort Lauderdale.

Grossman said the bureau's wedding point person - called an "Ambassador of Bliss" - will be available to help additional couples plan their events across Broward County. Grossman said she expects to see as many as 100 same-sex weddings a month over the next year.

A report from the Williams Institute, a national think tank at the UCLA School of Law, estimates that 24,248 same-sex couples will marry in Florida during the first three years it is legal. Those weddings, according to the report, would generate $182.2 million to the state and local economy and create between 875 and 2,626 jobs in the tourism and recreation sector.

In Broward, 1.3 million LGBT travelers visited the county in 2013, according to the tourism bureau. Richard Gray, the CVB's managing director for the LGBT market, said he expects the legalization of weddings to drive that figure up even more.

"We can grow the market even more now in my opinion," he said.

The Biltmore Hotel in Coral Gables will reintroduce a campaign it ran in 2013 during the Miami Gay & Lesbian Film Festival featuring photos of three couples - straight, gay and lesbian - getting married on its lavish grounds.

"There's no doubt that this was going to happen, regardless of when it was going to happen," said Natalia Plasencia, the hotel's director of catering. "So I wanted to make sure that our position was clear and not that it was something we were jumping on the bandwagon after the fact."

Plasencia said the hotel has hosted small, intimate commitment ceremonies in the past for same-sex couples, but she expects more locals to plan huge blowout events now.

In the Florida Keys, where cities from Key Largo to Key West already do a booming destination wedding business, promoters will fold same-sex weddings into marketing campaigns. In addition to digital ads that were to start running this month, the Monroe County Tourist Development Council will run print ads in upcoming months.

"The whole destination wedding is a lot of money, not only from all the guests that come down from everywhere and stay in our lodgings and accommodations, but also all the facets around weddings," said Harold Wheeler, director of the council. "That just puts a lot of money within the community."

Bobby Kyser, whose Wilton Manors event planning company Panache Style is responsible for decor at next month's giant beach wedding in Broward, has been anticipating this moment since last year.

In August, he organized a Gay Nuptials expo for same-sex couples preparing to get married. At that point, he said, many were flying to New York to legally exchange vows and then returning home to South Florida for celebrations.

"That's what they did before," Kyser said. "But now it's all going to happen here."

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